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Invite your childs’ beauty ~ unique approach

Each child is born with a uniqueness that can be encouraged to express itself into a distinctly beautiful essence. Since we are all not the same, our energy expresses itself differently and in distinct ways. Some children are louder and some more subdued, some enjoy independence and quiet time whilst others love socialising and being busy with other children.

In some instances children enjoy more movement and action than in others and certainly some show consistent preferences for activity. Their subsequent interests and interaction with the world follows the trend and confirms that their level of movement is the way in which their specific energy expresses itself. If only we could know the best way to read this energy, understand it and support it to flow in its chosen direction. There seems to be a trend in adults, when we don’t understand something we tend to feel some form of fear and sadly to manage this fear we make judgements that are often negative. These make it easy to stigmatise, label or even condemn certain qualities but mostly just indicate that we have not understood the true uniqueness, value and deeper essential nature of that child. So if you are a therapist, a parent, a teacher or if you work with children you are able to benefit from the following 5 step process which helps you to begin respecting and cultivating the unique approach to the childs’ deeper essential nature :

1. Notice the moments you become frustrated with the child. Notice if you feel something is
lacking or deficient in some way, if you are judging it to be a weakness.
2. Refrain from commenting on the behaviour if possible and begin to review after each week
the qualities you noted with the deeper question : what is the deeper reason for this quality,
what will it develop in the child, how is the child best supported to develop.
3. Train yourself to look for what may actually be evidence of their greatest strengths.
4. Be aware of labelling your children’s natural gifts as disabilities, help your child empower
himself.
5. Regularly ask yourself, “how can I support this child to reach h/her highest potential?”.

http://www.finerminds.com/love-relationships/adhd-in-children